When I was pregnant, I did not want to find out the gender of the babies until their birth. A lab tech who called with amnio results spoiled the surprise with our first born, but we were so excited to know that it was a he that we weren't too annoyed. The second and third times around we declined all of the tests that I was told to have, and were very specific during ultrasounds that we did not wish to know the sex. The strong reactions to our decision not to find out was quite astounding.
People who disagreed made comments such as "I'm too much of a Type A not to know". Translated that means, "I like to plan and control everything, clearly you don't." Anyone who knows me would have to laugh because I am also a Type A control freak, but one who prefers to be surprised when it comes to big things. I also love the colors green and yellow on babies and therefore don't mind not buying pink or blue everything before they are born. A few family members told me that it wasn't fair to them not to find out, as if it is at all about them. The thing about this that I find irritating is, there's no way to answer these questions without seeming defensive and/or putting down the other person's choice to find out.
Those who agreed would say things like "You're doing it the right way." or "There are so few surprises in life, this is one worth waiting for." Even the labor and delivery nurses said that it's very rare anymore that their patients don't know the sex, which honestly, I think is sad. With our second son, a full minute passed before we were told we had a boy since everyone in the room assumed we already knew.
Also, we prefer not to tell anyone what our name choices are while I'm pregnant. We don't want to listen to people tell us a zillion reasons why Eunice is not a nice name when we love it. We also don't want people calling our unborn baby by its name before its born. We want to welcome him or her into the world by calling him/her by name. Just a quirk that we both possess, I guess.
While I am always happy to hear that a new baby has been born, I am infinitely more excited to pick up the phone with anticipation, not knowing whether it's a boy or girl or what the name will be. If only I could convince everyone else to adopt my viewpoints. Yes, I'm kidding. Sort of.
Monday, October 8, 2007
Thursday, October 4, 2007
Top Chef Finale
Not only do I love to cook, but I also love watching other people cook and therefore, the reality show cooking competitions are right up my alley. I can't wait for the winner of Next Food Network Star to debut her show (should be this month, I think)!
I've watched all three seasons of Top Chef, and I'm generally not very surprised by the finale or the winner. But last night, I thought for a few minutes that Dale just might pull out a win. It was only in the last 4 or 5 weeks that I realized I was pulling for him. He was witty and honest and his food usually looked great. So Hung winning was very anticlimactic. I'm looking forward to the reunion show next week.
Now I'll have to admit that I like a lot of reality tv. This year I've watched Amazing Race, which is my absolute favorite, Survivor, Project Runway, Big Brother, and all of the sleazy Flavor Flav shows, in addition to the ones mentioned above. Grey's Anatomy is the non reality show I watch on a regular basis. We finally got Tivo last week and seriously, it's changed my life. I can't believe how quickly I can get through a 60 minute show. Being efficient is high on my list of things I love, so Tivo helps me achieve that goal.
I recorded a yoga show from FitTv, and I'm learning the routine and doing it as often as I can throughout the week. Getting to the gym is hard for me right now for various reasons so I'm walking in the park and doing yoga at home until we can get back to the Y.
This weekend there's not much going on. Our big excitement on the weekends is the Saturday morning trip to Whole Foods, where we eat our way through the store as we taste just about every sample they offer. We find it impossible not to spend a million dollars there each week, and then on the way home we stop at Trader Joe's for another half mil of items we can't get at WF. It's nuts, really, but worth it in the long run, I hope.
I've watched all three seasons of Top Chef, and I'm generally not very surprised by the finale or the winner. But last night, I thought for a few minutes that Dale just might pull out a win. It was only in the last 4 or 5 weeks that I realized I was pulling for him. He was witty and honest and his food usually looked great. So Hung winning was very anticlimactic. I'm looking forward to the reunion show next week.
Now I'll have to admit that I like a lot of reality tv. This year I've watched Amazing Race, which is my absolute favorite, Survivor, Project Runway, Big Brother, and all of the sleazy Flavor Flav shows, in addition to the ones mentioned above. Grey's Anatomy is the non reality show I watch on a regular basis. We finally got Tivo last week and seriously, it's changed my life. I can't believe how quickly I can get through a 60 minute show. Being efficient is high on my list of things I love, so Tivo helps me achieve that goal.
I recorded a yoga show from FitTv, and I'm learning the routine and doing it as often as I can throughout the week. Getting to the gym is hard for me right now for various reasons so I'm walking in the park and doing yoga at home until we can get back to the Y.
This weekend there's not much going on. Our big excitement on the weekends is the Saturday morning trip to Whole Foods, where we eat our way through the store as we taste just about every sample they offer. We find it impossible not to spend a million dollars there each week, and then on the way home we stop at Trader Joe's for another half mil of items we can't get at WF. It's nuts, really, but worth it in the long run, I hope.
Wednesday, October 3, 2007
Why CookShopLove?
Clearly I'm stealing a cute title idea from Elizabeth Gilbert. When reading her book, I thought a lot about three words I'd use to describe my life.
The cook part should be fairly obvious. When I moved into my first adult home, I was a pretty lame cook. The first time I tried to roast a chicken I forgot to take the innards out and so when my husband came home from work he walked in to a smoke filled kitchen. In tears, I told him to just throw the stupid chicken out, and I felt pretty foolish when he pointed out that the bag of stuff had to be removed before cooking the chicken. Times sure have changed; it's not rare for me to make an involved new recipe with multiple ingredients for a weeknight dinner all while helping my 9 year old with his homework, reading a book to my 4 year old, or nursing my 3 month old! I credit the change with good cookbooks, friends who enjoy cooking and eating as much as I do, and Food Network.
Shopping is obvious too. I do love to shop. Always have and probably always will. I can't think of anything I don't love to shop for except bedding (too many choices and they're all boring). Lately I've spent most of my time in Gap and Borders, buying clothes for everyone and birthday gifts for children whose parties my kids have been invited to.
On to the love. As I mentioned above, I am the mother of three children. My oldest will turn 10 next month. I am planning a huge surprise party for him, and since I love to plan and entertain as much as I love to cook and shop, I'm in my element.
My second child is 4½. We celebrated his half birthday with a small celebration that included a dairy free, egg free cake thanks to the carpool teacher who, when he told her it was his half birthday, said "Are you going to have half a cake tonight?". Thanks a LOT, Mrs. I! I didn't realize until it was too late that we had no milk or eggs, and my husband was out of town so there was no way I was dragging three kids and my tired self to the grocery store.
My daughter was born at the end of June and is so sweet. I absolutely love having babies. She nurses well, sleeps even better, and smiles all day long. What more can you ask for?
The cook part should be fairly obvious. When I moved into my first adult home, I was a pretty lame cook. The first time I tried to roast a chicken I forgot to take the innards out and so when my husband came home from work he walked in to a smoke filled kitchen. In tears, I told him to just throw the stupid chicken out, and I felt pretty foolish when he pointed out that the bag of stuff had to be removed before cooking the chicken. Times sure have changed; it's not rare for me to make an involved new recipe with multiple ingredients for a weeknight dinner all while helping my 9 year old with his homework, reading a book to my 4 year old, or nursing my 3 month old! I credit the change with good cookbooks, friends who enjoy cooking and eating as much as I do, and Food Network.
Shopping is obvious too. I do love to shop. Always have and probably always will. I can't think of anything I don't love to shop for except bedding (too many choices and they're all boring). Lately I've spent most of my time in Gap and Borders, buying clothes for everyone and birthday gifts for children whose parties my kids have been invited to.
On to the love. As I mentioned above, I am the mother of three children. My oldest will turn 10 next month. I am planning a huge surprise party for him, and since I love to plan and entertain as much as I love to cook and shop, I'm in my element.
My second child is 4½. We celebrated his half birthday with a small celebration that included a dairy free, egg free cake thanks to the carpool teacher who, when he told her it was his half birthday, said "Are you going to have half a cake tonight?". Thanks a LOT, Mrs. I! I didn't realize until it was too late that we had no milk or eggs, and my husband was out of town so there was no way I was dragging three kids and my tired self to the grocery store.
My daughter was born at the end of June and is so sweet. I absolutely love having babies. She nurses well, sleeps even better, and smiles all day long. What more can you ask for?
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